January 10, 2013

What is a Date?

I've spent the majority of my adult life as a single man. When people ask me why I'm single, I usually say it's because I choose to be, and most of the time this is true. However, this is also due to the fact that dating is a painfully foreign concept to me and no matter how much my social skills improve, I can't seem to wrap my head around it.

In a recent post I said something along the lines of "I'm finally going on dates for the first time since my last relationship!" I'm not entirely sure that's accurate. Partly because there have been many times that I've gone on a date with a guy and not known it was a date until a month after the fact, and partly because I'm not entirely sure that the dates I went on recently were actually dates. How the hell does one tell the difference?

For years I've been praying for men to be more articulate when asking me out of a date, not only to prevent my cluelessness, but because I think it's hot when a guy has enough swag to clearly state that he wants you. It seems the universe heard my plea, because since the new year began two men have come forward and said "can we have a date?" And guess what? I'm still confused. Because now I heard hundreds of people using the word 'date' in a casual friendly way, so where I once would have had a clear picture in front of me, the awkward jumble continues.

Is this a problem for anyone else? Or am I even more socially inept than I thought? All I want is a reason to giggle like a schoolgirl without feeling like a buffoon 24 hours later.


  1. I have almost the same problem. Date is not the thing that used to be, it's depends on the circumstances. It's a matter of perspective. Sometimes i wish date would be the same old thing :)

  2. I think that the best way to find your "date" description or definition, is to talk to the person/partner what this date has to point !