The media makes bank on our insecurities, so they will do whatever they can to keep us feeling ugly. But we all have the right to feel hot in a skimpy pair of undies or a super tight pair of jeans, and I don't think nearly enough of us exercise that privilege.
I think we are all familiar with my tank-top fetish at this point. I discovered it when I was in my early teens, undoubtedly from all of the boy bands I was listening to at the time. It was around that time that I started buying "wifebeaters" and wearing them underneath my button-downs, as was the style at the time. At one point my mother asked me why I was buying them. I don't remember what the reason I gave was, but I guarantee it wasn't the real one. The truth was...they just felt sexy.
|What I looked like|
|What I felt like|
I did get a little bit of crap from my classmates at the time for baring my less-than-rippling biceps (other guys with much more muscly bods who eventually dropped out or got expelled. #karma) but I refused to let them intimidate me. I was determined to let myself feel sexy when the world told me I wasn't.
One thing that I've noticed is that if you wear something that makes you feel attractive, even if you aren't sure how well it looks on you, it shows. People will notice that you feel hot, because that's what makes you look hot.
So if you have ever shied away from wearing something that you really loved because you weren't sure that it flattered you, go with your gut instinct. It's great for your self-esteem, and you may just catch another sexy someone's attention ;)