Gay Chivalry

I can't tell you the number of times I have chastised a woman, either verbally or mentally, for trying to reap the benefits of chivalry in our day and age, particularly the financial variety. Now that women can get an education and hold a job and all of these wonderful things, there is no reason for them to expect the man to pay for everything on a date. To do so is both unfair for the man and discredits the capability of the woman and the entire process is completely unnecessary in our society. Many a time, I have thanked the universe for making me homosexual so that I don't have to deal with that situation at all.

Or so I thought.

It occurred to me very recently that chivalry is not exclusively heterosexual. Gay men also have their own unwritten code of chivalry, it seems, in which the older and/or more financially successful member of a pair of suitors picks up the majority of the tab(s). Although there are few things I hate more than comparing heterosexual and homosexual relationships, due to my age and lack of financial stability, I end up on the "lady's" end of things. And I'm not going to lie...I kinda like it.

I've never really liked the idea of having a sugar daddy. I don't want anyone to 'take care of me' full time or anything, because I like being able to take care of myself, but I can't deny that it's nice to be spoiled every now and then. A drink is a drink...sometimes it means something, sometimes it doesn't...but I definitely get a little giggly when a guy sends me home with cab fare.

Now that I've reached this perspective, I kinda get it. Being pampered is fun, I think the whole human race can agree. Even so, I don't think that it's right to expect it all the time. I certainly don't. No matter how much cash your date is willing to throw down for you, go dutch as often as possible. The spoiling will be that much sweeter when you get it.