Just Say It

"I want to have sex with you."

If you are reading this blog, I imagine you would agree that this is one of the greatest compliments one can receive (for me, only rivaled by "You're really smart" or "You're really talented." But in an ideal world, both of those would be paired with "I want to have sex with you.") But why is this compliment so difficult to deliver?

It's been nagging at me from both the giving and the receiving end for several weeks now. I am constantly getting frustrated with guys who beat around the bush and won't say what's actually on their mind. I don't deal with subtlety very well, and when the topic is sexual, it puts me on edge. I wish guys would just come forth and say they want to do me so I could give them a solid answer and move on with my life.

Then I get even more frustrated when I catch myself being the exact same way because either I can't measure a guy's interest level or don't know what his boundaries are. Even when we've already done the deed before, it's a challenging task...making it clear that the sex was just really, really good and you want more of it and that you're not getting clingy on them.

I'm always a huge advocate for open communication with prospective partners, but that first hurtle is always the hardest to jump over. How do you tell someone that you want to get in their pants?